Why you have to write and proceed for a fruitful life

7 Years is a long time period in the life of a dog or cat, but for a human being it is a medium term period. The period I lost in between.This blog has been dormant for almost 7 years now.

The 7 years of my life has not been lost, but when I look back at those years,some time could have been spent on writing mindblogger, it would have been fruitful. Some signs say : Stop and proceed, I stopped but didn’t proceed.

I am an ardent reader, but my interests are not constant. At one period of time I maybe reading a classic, soon my interests turn to self improvement, philosophy, stock trading and so on. I am a drifter as some people may call it. Drifting through emotions, though periods of relative dryness, happiness, sadness, elation.

You can see many instances where people draw ideas and inspirations from thin air. Some desires love to go into hibernation, but those desires would still burn deep inside you, waiting for the right time to come out. My desire to write has been inside me, waiting for a spark.  The spark has become a wildfire now and I cannot withhold my yearning to write.

People have different motivations for performing certain tasks. Some people work for money, earning tons of money maybe their motivation. Even a selfless aid worker may have a motive of being appreciated. A writers motivation is readers.The desire to be heard, to be read and commented on. A writer has to write his hearts content, not some manufactured stuff. There is no pointing writing about the stuff you don’t love.

As the years went by, we have changed a lot. Now we have the most modern gadgets in our hands. Facebook has conquered the social media. I have read some very good articles on facebook . Writing on social media is the way forward, but the problem lies in the reach of the posts. On wordpress and other blog platforms your articles will be read by an interested person on the subject. Social media posts with the share option will spread like wildfire, bringing in all the rubble of the society, who have no idea about what you have written about.So I will stick to the time tested writing medium, and will blog on.

Penning down your thoughts can have many benefits. You maybe reading a lot, but writing a blog will help you have memories. I like to have my memories back….

The Pathology behind a criminal mind.

How do criminals and saints evolve?If you cannot blame a person  for his misdeeds  or praise a person for his accomplishments what is the point in living a life?These were some of the questions which perplexed my mind for quite a long time.“No one is born as a criminal or as a saint”,this is a proverb which has been repeated over ages. Does this  have any meaning, if it has a meaning how can we deduce the outcome from this sentence?

Now I have got the answer to this question, and it is really interesting.To understand more of this complex phenomenon we have to go through some simple reasoning.

Difference between a smoker and non smoker

Do you know the difference between a smoker and a non smoker? The difference between them started from the common dilemma they had. The common point connecting them is that at some point in their life, they faced the same dilemma, Should I smoke?.Those who decided to go with their desire became smokers and others non smokers.Non smokers can be of two types, either they  had a very strong will or they were having a really indecisive mind.Their indecisive mind would have prolonged their desire to smoke from time to time, and they could never muster the courage to indulge in smoking, for the fear of being caught red handed.The decisions of smokers would have been affected by a lot of external factors like friend circle and state of mind.Many chain smokers would have been smoke haters if they had escaped that fateful moment, the day of first puff! Once they took the first puff, the big wall which separated them from the wretched smokers had crumbled. Now the greatest barrier which held this man from smoking had been broken,his inhibition has blown away.Once the barrier has been overcome there is no looking back.The first few days would be filled with fear and guilt but soon it will disappear.

The story of the smoker holds true for every other vice in life.If you ask a chronic alcoholic, he will talk about his first drink.Ask a person who indulges in multiple sexual relationships, he will talk about his first encounter and represent it as his stepping stone to success.

If you ask a smoker who quit,”How did you manage to quit smoking?” He will say that his courage to withhold his first puff held him for so long.Had he taken the first puff, his motivating factor would have disappeared and he would have fell into his old vice again.

The Principle of reward and punishment

The principle of all this lies in the reward -punishment system which controls  of our actions.When your actions are rewarded you are most likely to do it again,whereas if you are punished, you are less likely to perform this act.

How one becomes a criminal.

When you are about to indulge in an act which is widely perceived to be a taboo,conversation within your mind goes like this:

” This is a very bad act, I shouldn’t perform it.”

” Why shouldn’t I, most of my friends and a lot of others do it.”

“I shouldn’t do this because I have some moral values.”

This inner conversation may go on for a few hours or may stretch  even to several days.Suddenly you gather all your courage to beat your conscience and do the act.You fell guilty and miserable for a few hours.Eventually the guilt wanes, and when your next chance to perform the forbidden act comes, the inhibition will be much less.After a few days you will be performing this activity daily and can feel normal.This is how criminal minds work, they all faced the dilemma, their inhibition is now gone, they live the life which is  normal in their own perspective.When they see blood or when they rape, they see it as a system which rewards them for their act.

Now consider a scenario, when you were caught red handed in your first act itself.The chances of you performing the act again will be much less, unless you are a very stubborn person.If this punishment happens the earlier, the better.As time goes by the role of punishment in reversing the act declines.Like a child who fears the cane of his teacher,every man fears the long arm of the law. As the child grows up his fear for the cane declines and eventually disappear,same in the case of a criminal facing the law for the first time and the tenth time!This is the role punishment has in our day today lives.

How to live a successful life in your own standards.

So if you are a person having clear ideals,you can lead a life you wanted to live by holding back your desire, don’t break the barrier you set for yourself.Remember this a person who is having a bad habit for quite a long time, he may not have any guilt. He or she  sees the act as quite normal,just like a prostitute who lost her inhibition after quite a long time of indulgence, they may invite you.So keep your virginity in matters you consider as a taboo. This is how you can lead a successful life in your own standards!

P.S Indeed there are born criminals, having defects in their chromosomes, highly aggressive people. But those anomalies are only a few in millions.This post is all about choices we made in our life.

Have I got something useful?

     Hey guys….Writing on this blog after a long break.I think I have got something to share with you. Some ideas. Though I think they are cool, many out there don’t agree!

I plan to combine my old blog A manupulatorsdreams and mindblogger together. A mix of ideas.

I have been searching for a co blogger on this subject. Hope to find somebody real soon!